The Value of Honesty

As children, most of us had parents who tried to convince us that cheaters never prosper and liars will not go to heaven. Happily, we are all aware of completely scrupulous people who prosper and reach great financial heights while exercising pure honesty. However, despite the teachings of our parents, dishonesty is still a large factor in business today.
"Do cheaters and liars prosper?...Of course they do! Do they live happy lives?...Of course not!
TYPES OF LIARS

Compulsive liars - People who are so psychologically insecure that they believe lying is necessary for survival.

Strategic liars - People who stretch the truth, make up false stories or withhold the whole truth in order to win or make a point. These folks are often the best negotiators and deal makers in large, successful businesses.

White liars - They are the ones who believe that a small white lie now and again is not really a lie at all. These people often justify a lie because they believe it helped someone or at the very least did not harm anyone.

Situational liars - These are the lesser liars who do not make a habit of lying but will twist and turn the truth in order to avoid an unpleasant or difficult situation. You can find people from all five types at all levels of business. The most common form of dishonesty at the management or executive level is the Strategic type. North American business standards require that corporations succeed and grow. Business leaders who convince customers and employees of falsehoods in order to grow and succeed are often rewarded with huge paycheques and amazing bonuses. Success is the primary goal and anything short of outright criminal activity is justifiable as long as profitability is maintained. Occasionally the dishonesty crosses the line and alas, criminal activity ensues. Some high level leaders think nothing of lying to employees and customers. DISHONESTY IS HARD TO LIVE WITH
Despite their financial success, most dishonest leaders are never truly happy. They are often cynical, distrustful and fearful that someone might lie to them or catch them in one of their own lies. HONESTY BRINGS PEACE OF MIND!
It is almost impossible to regret being honest and telling the truth virtually never brings any personal guilt. Honesty produces wonderful reputations and creates friends wherever it goes. Honest people smile a lot and find the positive elements in everything they do. Often the positive attention they garner will bring opportunities for financial success that dishonest folks will never be offered. They are the good people of the world and others enjoy watching them succeed.
"The trust that honesty brings can catapult good people to fabulous wealth!"
WHAT IS THE VALUE OF HONESTY?
Honesty, like success cannot be measured in money.

Based on article in Ezinearticle

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Do You Want To Know Why?

"To the questions of your life you are the answer, and to the problems of your life you are the solution." -Joe Cordare
The reasons why people do what they do are wide and deep. Just look at all of the books written on mental and psychological disorders, criminal profiling, narcissism, sociopaths etc. People spend years studying why people do what they do.
Then there are people who simply lack integrity, honesty, ethics, values and those who couldn't care less about anyone but themselves.
There are so many different scenarios I can give you where people wonder why. Why did an ex steal $35,000 dollars from me? Why do people cheat on you? Lie to you? Hurt you? Why do people do what they do? You can drive yourself crazy, let it consume you, lose sleep over it, talk to everyone about it, try and figure it all out and you may even have the opportunity to confront the person and ask them why face to face. But, the reality is, what's the difference? What if you have the chance to ask your ex why they left you or cheated on you? And they give you an answer. When you want to know why, ask yourself this: How will knowing the answer to this question change anything? What will getting an answer to your question do in helping you deal with it? By holding onto the unanswered questions that you may never have the answers to only prolongs your suffering.
Accept that people are who they are and no matter why they did what did or do what they do, doesn't change the outcome. There is a big case in the U.S right now about a young mother who killed her 2 year old daughter. Answering, why, doesn't change the outcome.
So if you are banging your head against the wall wondering why about something, ask yourself why you aren't letting go of the past, accepting what is and enjoying your life?
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The Important of Forgiveness

Forgiveness: 

Some people say it isn't an easy thing to do;
others say it's easier to forgive than to forget.
Forgiveness can help you to let loose the negativity, such as anger, heat, rage, fear, or self-doubt; such feeling severs in your heart from past situations. Harboring these feelings in your heart will cause your behavior to change as well as your emotional balance.
According to Mahatma Gandhi, "The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong."
in Al-Quran:
And ye haste to the forgiveness of your Lord, Allah providessyurga as wide as heaven and earth are reserved for those who fear Him. That people who spend their wealth at a time when a good or a narrow field and those who restrain anger and forgive people's mistakes others, Allah loves those who do good. "(Surah al-Imran: 133-134).

"If you judge people you have no time to judge them." Mother Teresa.

If you having difficulty dealing with past mistakes or things you fail to accomplish, while some people might turn to religion, in the end, the inner strength comes from your willingness to be strong and forget.

Un-forgiveness Is Associated with Health Risks

Un-forgiveness is the Experience of Emotions Already Linked to Health Risks.

Un-forgiveness Causes Health Problems in a Manner Similar to Other

Chronic Stress Responses

The lacks of not forgiving one self can cause serious health problems, side effects, fatigue, depression; all of these symptoms are products of a weak immune system. Being without forgiveness is a distraction, and a stumbling block. The learning experience for me was that if you allow your situation to control your life; your future will remain uncertain. While you are healing, stay away from dangerous situations because forgiveness and healing are one.

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Simple Ways to Be Happy Now

One life lesson we may learn too well is to seek happiness in good things ahead. We look to that future moment when we'll get that promotion, realize that dream, buy that special thing, or take that vacation, as the time when we'll be happy. However, if that is your primary focus, you may find yourself caught in the stress of forever-seeking and never fully enjoy what is happening right now.
When you merge these two skills, you learn to be happy now. In this article, we'll look at three simple actions that develop these skills and help you arrive at a state of present happiness.

1. Meditation is a practice of "being present" by focusing your attention in specific ways for a period of time. As you meditate, you learn to observe where your attention is located. You learn to recognize when your attention is drawn off to the past or the future so you can return to the present. This is a skill that you develop through consistent practice over time.
Reflection and planning are important skills as well. Yet, when you are unable to let go of worry and fear, you lose your ability to consciously choose your point of focus.
2. Appreciate
As you develop the ability to be present-focused, you start to notice more detail in what is occurring inside and around you. You can taste this moment because your attention is "here." You also discover that you can choose to focus on any number of different details about what is happening.
There will be circumstances that challenge your ability to find the good in them. Old habits of negativity, judgment, blame, and complaining will get triggered and you'll lose your appreciative focus.
See if you can observe your reaction, without being consumed by it. Witness your thoughts and feelings with a light, curious attention. Understand that thoughts and feelings come and go-and you have a choice about which ones you entertain and maintain. You can choose your focus in line with your intent. That is the key to being happy now.

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Become a grateful person!

We have been taught instead to focus primarily on goals and achievements that we are working toward. Most people have had the experience of that feeling of let down immediately after accomplishing a goal. Without something to continuously look forward to, the current moment can seem empty and even frightening. This practice can generate a constant state of wanting that can be alleviated only by formulating the next goal or acquisition.
Besides the constant wanting, not all people accomplish their goals or get what they want. Depending on their equilibrium, they can experience real devastation if they perceive their inability to reach a goal as a failure. If we are grateful, we may want more than what we have, but we simultaneously are aware of and enjoy what we already do have. A person who finds upon arriving at the store that the store has just run out of his favorite flavor of ice cream may become irritated or even angry. If we weren't taught how to be grateful, it is a habit that we will have to cultivate. Do we have shelter, family, friends, clothing, food, health? These are basic things that we enjoy for most of our lives and take for granted. If we lose the sense of entitlement that make us feel that only good is coming to us, and examine the good on a regular basis, we will become more grateful people.

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