Do You Want To Know Why?

"To the questions of your life you are the answer, and to the problems of your life you are the solution." -Joe Cordare
The reasons why people do what they do are wide and deep. Just look at all of the books written on mental and psychological disorders, criminal profiling, narcissism, sociopaths etc. People spend years studying why people do what they do.
Then there are people who simply lack integrity, honesty, ethics, values and those who couldn't care less about anyone but themselves.
There are so many different scenarios I can give you where people wonder why. Why did an ex steal $35,000 dollars from me? Why do people cheat on you? Lie to you? Hurt you? Why do people do what they do? You can drive yourself crazy, let it consume you, lose sleep over it, talk to everyone about it, try and figure it all out and you may even have the opportunity to confront the person and ask them why face to face. But, the reality is, what's the difference? What if you have the chance to ask your ex why they left you or cheated on you? And they give you an answer. When you want to know why, ask yourself this: How will knowing the answer to this question change anything? What will getting an answer to your question do in helping you deal with it? By holding onto the unanswered questions that you may never have the answers to only prolongs your suffering.
Accept that people are who they are and no matter why they did what did or do what they do, doesn't change the outcome. There is a big case in the U.S right now about a young mother who killed her 2 year old daughter. Answering, why, doesn't change the outcome.
So if you are banging your head against the wall wondering why about something, ask yourself why you aren't letting go of the past, accepting what is and enjoying your life?
Based on Article on Ezinearticle

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